"Bay of Married Pigs" By: Jami McGuigan

When Carrie goes to visit her friend Patience and her husband in The Hamptons she quickly discovers that married people see single people as a threat. During this episode, Patience immediately sees Carrie as untrustworthy after she sees her husband’s penis in the hallway. 

Throughout this episode, single woman are portrayed as desperate, threatening, and untrustworthy, all because they are not associated with another person. Samantha says that “married women are threatened because we can have sex with anyone, anytime, anywhere and they’re afraid we are going to have sex anytime anywhere with their husbands”. Miranda adds to Samantha's comment by saying “when people get married it doesn’t matter how good friends you are, they become married and we become the enemy…the married people who don’t fear you, pity you”. It is absurd that some people believe a person needs to be in a relationship to be considered "normal". 

The girls discuss how if you are the only single person at a party you are considered gay, a loser, a whore, or a lepar. It is ridiculous that women need to be dependent on another human being to have total respect and trust in society. In this episode, Miranda is only invited to her boss’s dinner party once he thinks that she is in a relationship (as if a woman is not enough on her own). If you are in a couple it should not define you, and if you are single you should not be excluded. In the episode it is also discussed how women forget who they are when they are married: “everything becomes ‘we’”. Ultimately, it is implied that whether women are in a relationship or by themselves they lose their identity either way. 

In the end of the episode patience is only happy to see Carrie once she discovers that she is dating someone. Throughout the episode, married people are portrayed as superior; I don’t see how relying on another person makes you better than anyone else. I also don’t understand how losing your independence makes you trustworthy. In my opinion, the more independent and sure of yourself you are, the more likely it is that you will make the right decisions in life. There are a lot of questions surrounding the relationship statuses of others, but in the end the status you choose should not matter to anyone else but yourself.