In this episode, Carrie is dealing with the aftermath of her breakup with Mr. Big. Miranda and Charlotte try to convince Carrie to leave her house, and Charlotte tells her one of her relationship rules that “It takes half the time you dated someone to get over them.” Again, we see Charlotte following the anti-feminist “rule-book” of dating that is meant to guide women on the path to marriage. The girls drag Carrie to a Yankee game, where she happens to catch a fly ball from the field. Realizing that the new Yankee member could be her “rebound guy”, she asks him on a date.
The next day at breakfast all the women can talk about is how Carrie can make Big jealous by dating the new Yankee. A fed up Miranda says, “Why are we still talking about him…its over lets talk about something else.” When Charlotte states, “I have a problem with my boyfriend,” referring to the fact that the man she is dating is always touching his genitals in public, Miranda goes into a rage. She says, “All we talk about anymore is Big or balls or small dicks…how does it happen that four smart women have nothing to talk about but boyfriends? What about us? What we think, we feel, we know? Christ! Does it always have to be about them?” Miranda is clearly the most feminist of the women, as she finds it pathetic that all the other women can talk about it men. She is much less in touch with her emotions than the other characters, and is annoyed by the petty “girl talk” her friends constantly engage in.
In this episode Samantha is in a monogamous relationship with a man named James. The fact that this sexually promiscuous character is in a relationship, let alone a monogamous one, adds more depth to her character. It shows that like the other women, Samantha too craves the love and attention from one specific man. This traditional view of women finding the perfect mate is counteracted by Samantha’s claim that James’ penis size is too small. She even tries to coach James on how to give her an orgasm but it doesn't work As an independent, go-getter woman, Samantha refuses to settle for anything less than her standards, which evidently include her partner’s level of endowment. Just when viewers assume Samantha is finally succumbing to emotional feelings of love and affect, she re-asserts her more feminist status towards men and dating.
After Carrie bumps into Big at the Dolce and Gabbanna party she attends with the new Yankee, she calls Miranda stating, “We need to talk.” This episode emphasizes the importance of friendship between the women; even when Carrie is upset about Big, the first person she calls is her “feminist” friend Miranda. When they meet at the diner, Miranda confesses that she ran away from her ex-boyfriend on the street earlier that day, demonstrating that she too is obsessed with how men see her. Even though the women may be “obsessed” with men, they look for validation in each other when making decisions. The episode ends with Carrie stating, “The most important break up rule: no matter who broke your heart or how long it takes to heal you’ll never get through it without your friends.”